Elder Rage or Take My Father -- Please!

If you ever though you were alone in the world of caregiving -- especially if one of your parents is suffering from symptoms of dementia -- you're guaranteed to find a few chuckles here that let you know that someone else has traveled the road you're on -- and has fallen into may of the same potholes.

A riveting, often humorous, non-fiction novel that chronicles televison executive Jacqueline Marcell's trials and tribulations, and eventual success at managing the care of her aging parents. Also an extensive self-help guide with valuable resources and solutions for effective management, medically and behaviorally, of challenging elders who resist care.

Includes an addendum by renowned dementia specialist, Rodman Shankle, MS MD: A Physician’s Guide to Treating Dementia. Valuable for everyone from the family to the physician. Required reading at four universities for geriatric assessment and management.

The mission of the book is to "spread the word about the importance of early diagnosis to the 77 million baby boomers who are so often in denial about eldercare until they are in a crisis." With the proper treatment, dementia symptoms might be masked and slowed down by 2-5 years, keeping a person in Stage One longer, which is intermittent and mild. Seeking help early can save families a lot of heartache and money, and save our society the burden of caring for so many elders who decline sooner than need be.

Elder Rage is also an extensive self-help book with answers to difficult "how to" questions like: getting obstinate elders to give up driving, accept a caregiver, see a different doctor, go to day care, move to a new residence--and includes a wealth of valuable resources, websites and recommended reading.

368 pages, 8-1/2 x 5-1/2, $19.95

Table Of Contents

1. IF IT ISN’T TEN THINGS—IT’S TWENTY
I’ve Seen Fire and I’ve Seen Rain Drops Fallin’ on My Head · Cries and Careless Whispers · Reality Bites the Hell Outta Ya · Just a Little “R-E-S-P-E-C-T” When I Come Home · Le Miserable

2. HYDE STRUNG IN PLAIN SIGHT
What’s It All About, Jackie · Losing My Religion · As the Wounded Turn · One Life to Live-or-Two Minds to Lose

3. MY LITTLE GANG OF RASCALS
Phantom Menace of the Old Folk’s Farm · Do Not Back Up: Severe Life Damage · And Then Came Mom · Penny Wise and Pounds of Foolish Fiddlers · Grouch-Ohhh! · Demented Times Require Desperate Measures

4. HONEY, I BLEW UP THE HOUSE Shock It to Me · Fred and Wilma Moved to Green Acres · The Man From U.N.Believable · Look Who’s Talking Now · Miss Judge What Your County Can Do For You

5. JACQUELINE, YOU IGNORANT SLUT
Good Morning, Vietnam · And Then Along Came Something About Mary Jo· I’m Steppin’ Into the Third Dementia · I Remember Mama Said There’d Be Months Like This

6. IN A OH-MY-GODDADIVIDA, HONEY
I’m Dreamin’ of a Wishful Christmas · More Nonsense and Responsibilities · If This Table Could Talk

7. NURTURE and NATURE MESSED HIM UP The Way They Were © Grumpier Old Men Was a Documentary · It Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda Been a Wonderful Life · Merrily, Merrily, Life Is But a Scream

8. MENDING SHATTERED FENCES
Too Good to Be True Lies-or-Dared Consequences · I’m Mad as Hell and I’m Not… · That’s Me in the Spotlight

9. FUGITIVES FROM INJUSTICE
He Ought to Be in Pictures Worth a Thousand Words · Star Searching For Sanity-or-All My Caregivers · The Price of the Prejudice · The Old and the Restless · Midsummer’s Nightmare at the Alamo

10. ENTER TERRI
May the Driving Force Be With You · Long Day’s Journey Into Nightmares· Clear and Present Danger: The Hospital · Joined at the Hip

11. AMAZING ARIANA
Oh What a Wangeld Web We Weave · The Hardest Working Maniac in Show Business · Pros and Cons

12. ONCE AN ADULT, TWICE A CHILD
Old Age Is Not For Cry Babies · Still Crazy After All These Years · Liar Liar, Pants on Fire · Unsolved Maniac Mysteries · Gentle, Dependable, Overnight Disbelief · Even Ripley Won’t Believe It

13. FRIENDS AND FAMILY MATTERS MOST
Desperately Seeking Sanity · The Three Faces of Jacqueline · The Outer Limits of Suspected Belief · I’m All Outta Whole Lotta Love · I’d Rather Donate a Kidney… To Oprah

14. GULLIBLE’S TRAVELS-or-SMALL BALLS OF FIRE
Bound and Gagged By Honor · Two, Two, Two Minds in One · Abbott and Costello Meet Jakell & Hyde · In the Heat of the Day For Night · Relative Relativity-or-Tommy Can You Hear Me Now? · The Greatest Story I Ever TOLD YOU SO

15. ACHY BREAKY HEART OF HEARTS
Unwanted: Dead or Alive · Bound on Broadway · What a Long Strange Trip Its Been · Hyde Risk Behavior · Born to Be Just a Wild and Crazy Guy

16. TO BE DEMENTED OR DECEPTIVE? THAT WAS THE QUESTION
How to Earn a Ph.D. at Home · Ahhh, Hindsight—It’s Always 20/20, Barbara

Appendix

Behavior Modification Guidelines
When a Difficult Elder Displays Good Behavior
Verbal Praise, Loving Physical Affection, Edible Treats,
Special Activity, Special Attention, Gold Stars Chart

When a Difficult Elder Displays Negative Behavior
Verbal Commands, Time-Outs, Three Strikes, Shame,
Remove Specific Privileges/Charts, Call the Police

How Do I Handle My Elderly Loved One Who:
1. Wants all my time and attention?
2. Makes constant unreasonable demands?
3. Is inflexible, critical and negative?
4. Complains about real or imagined physical symptoms?
5. Exhibits bizarre behavior and uses inappropriate/foul language?
6. Has become suspicious and paranoid?
7. Is experiencing increasing levels of memory loss?
8. Makes up silly lies, exaggerates and cries wolf?
9. Prefers to stay in bed or do nothing—“waiting to die”?
10. Refuses to allow a cleaning person into their home?
11. Gets furious if something doesn’t happen at a specific time?
12. Gets mad when told “no” they can’t do something?
13. Wants to eat constantly or only wants to eat the same thing?
14. Refuses to take showers and change their underclothes?
15. Is a danger on the road but refuses to give up driving?
16. Needs but refuses to allow any caregiving help in the home?
17. Can no longer take proper care of their bills and finances?
18. Refuses to see any other doctor but is not getting adequate care?
19. Needs to see a psychiatrist but absolutely refuses to go?
20. Acts completely normal and charming in front of others?
21. Fakes illness at the Day Care to avoid staying?
22. Is driving me crazy as I try to deal with all their problems?
23. Has pushed me to feelings of resentment and guilt?
24. Cannot be reasoned with when they go into an illogical rage?
25. Is completely unmanageable and needs to be placed in a home?

Long-Term Care Insurance

Ten Warning Signs of Alzheimer’s Disease

How is Alzheimer’s Disease Diagnosed?

Three Stages of Alzheimer’s Disease

Startling Statistics

Other Diseases That Act Like Alzheimer’s

Epilog

A Physician’s Guide to Treating Aggression in Dementia
By Rodman Shankle, MS, MD, Specialist in Dementia

Types of Aggressive Behavior

The Nine Major Causes of Aggressive Behavior

The Potential for Violent Aggressive Behavior

Medications That Can Increase or Decrease Aggression

Diagnosis of the Cause of Aggression

Aggression Evaluation Steps to Determine the Best Treatment

Screening

Prevention

Neuroanatomy & Neurophysiology of Aggression

Treatment & Behavioral Treatment of Aggression

Medications to Treat Aggression

Anti-Aggression Medications Grouped by Their Site of Action

Conclusion

Jacqueline’s Ten Step Program

Hope For the Future -- What We Know So Far
Omenntum Transposition Surgery
Search for a Cure

What You Can Do to Help

Valuable Resources

Recommended Reading

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